BE YOUR OWN VALENTINE!
You don’t need to be someone else’s valentine. For a change of perspective, give yourself a turn.
When a romantic relationship ends, the dream of what could have been is shattered. A deep, mournful grief often follows the breakup.
Grief is all around us. When touched by it, all we want is to make the pain and sadness disappear as quickly as possible. Whether the relationship terminates abruptly or in slow motion, the emotional residue can lead to confusion, obsession, anger, anxiety and even relief. All are potent pieces of grief’s mosaic.
What my broken heart has taught me during periods of transition is how necessary it is to take time to be in the stillness of the loss. I need to sit with my grief. I’ve learned how important it is to mourn the end of the relationship.
The idea of having a relationship with the self and with the psyche can sound a bit cliché. But it is so often exactly what we need. Serial monogamy can seem like a far better option than meeting and dating the self. It’s easier to jump from one relationship to another.
What we so often tend to do is quickly find another relationship to satisfy the intense longing to fill the now vacant role. This type of grief invites and demands a personal confrontation. It’s never easy to confront yourself. This is particularly true when the desire…
