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Ten Process of Forgiveness
Forgiveness plays a role in grief, burnout and career. It is an imperative aspect of healing to let go of judgment and culpability as a means of recalibration.
The 10 tools for forgiveness:
1. Decide to start the process of forgiveness
2. When aware of judgments, replace them with a fact
3. Stop obsessing about the person or occurrence if there is absolutely nothing that can be done to change the situation: think about what can be changed, and change that. Go inside of the psyche.
4. To forgive does not mean to forget. Forgiveness is a respite from the active state of blame.
5. Write a letter about the situation to safely externalize the anger/rage.
6. Acknowledge the anger/rage/sadness around the situation: it allows for less fusion
7. De-fuse by being in the moment of the mind. Stay present by counting, snap a rubber band and refocus to change the thought.
8. Affirm a new positive intention and act on it
9. Connect with others who have healed in similar ways
10. Take an inventory about what is un-forgiven: Imagine the outcome if there was an apology: This is a form of soothing the self
