How reconnecting changes everything! — When babies fail to thrive its often because they haven’t been touched, spoken to, or noticed. In a time when cell phones connect and disconnect us, social media has replaced person to person interaction, mothers are looking less at their infants, a date can look like two people sitting across…

Coping with anxiety and fear in grief. — Originally published at Psychology Today KEY POINTS Identifying the current level of anxiety can help you seek tools to feel relief. Grief can cause anxiety and fear; differentiating the two helps us seek appropriate coping strategies. Fear and anxiety are healthy responses we experience, despite causing uncomfortable feelings. All at once The world…

Learn to disengage from The Mother Shadow archetype in grief. — Robert Browning said, “Motherhood: All love begins and ends there.” He couldn’t have said it better; knowing love begins there. Disappointment in love begins there, as well. The day of honor for the Mother figure is soon approaching. For some people, the day is full of love, appreciation, and tenderness…

Distraction, depression, and detachment in grief. — Originally published at Psychology Today KEY POINTS In grief, distraction, depression, and detachment play off one another and can feel all-consuming. A persistent inability to focus is a normal part of grief and feels different from everyday forgetfulness. There is an opportunity to explore the self and understand more profound parts of…

How getting caught in a web of grief can be a good thing. — Originally published at Psychology Today Yesterday, I saw a spider’s web capture a bee. The bee tried to untangle itself, but the harder it tried the more entangled it became in the intricacy of the web. Finally, it stilled. Did it give up, did it know, in bee’s terms, how…

A Personal Perspective: Finding balance on the grief journey. — Originally Published on Psychology Today KEY POINTS The relationship to the Mother archetype influences our ability to engage and disengage. The Mother Shadow can be an unconsciousness consisting of what you don’t want to see or engage with. The Good or Nourishing Mother helps to conjure self-evident traits that might seem cliche…

Grief, who? — Originally Published on Psychology Today Knock, Knock! Who’s there? Quiet. Quiet, Who? Yes, it’s time we met. Let me introduce myself. I exist in a room where you can close a door and shut out the noise, a place in your mind that can be still, even when chaos may…

A Personal Perspective: Finding balance on the grief journey. — Originally published at Psychology Today KEY POINTS Archetypes are categories of people, characters, or voices that express fundamental aspects of the human experience. Each archetype has a shadow. There is a powerful connection between the representation of The Hero and the lines that divide us from each other and the inner Self. …

Journey through the three zones: stuck, ally/superpower, and metamorphosis. — Originally published at Psychology Today KEY POINTS Having strong grief and sadness vocabulary can lead to re-calibration. Both happiness and sadness can be equal stepping stones on the path to growth opportunities. Sadness is often a place of gentle and vulnerable being, an oddly tranquil place of contemplation and becoming.